Shelby Hill's Blog (7)

Historically the African American community has struggled with sustaining longevity and commitment to marriage. It’s dutifully noted in numerous writings and teachings that slavery embedded a crippling blow to the African- American community, a crack so precipitous that the African American family is faintly progressing, if at all. African-American relationships need a lifeline. Recent studies state Black women, in sum, are less likely to marry, stay married, and remarry. Those who marry do so a… Continue

Many of you have asked… Shelby…What’s Relationship Coaching? To those folks, on a One-on-One basis, I’ve explained to them what it is that I do exactly as a Relationship Empowerment Coach. Fortunately, I have had many Complimentary Coaching sessions with several members of this group and several other groups. These Complimentary coaching sessions have provided us the luxury of connecting and enabled them to learning more about Relationship Coaching and how they can benefit from it. Often the val… Continue

Ahh Yes…The Married Life is a hell of an experience! It raises challenges of all sorts but, it affords sooo many invaluable benefits. You know like consistent companionship and affection. You have a best friend that you can talk to about anything and you know that your secret is safe with No judgment! Ahh YES...The Married Life! Sure there's an argument here and there, some attitude when least expected but, that only means that you're missing one another and it's time to reconnect in the uninhib… Continue

I’m sure you’ve heard of the phrase “if you give someone what they want, they’ll give you what you want.” Well, that doesn’t happen as often as we wish. What people must realize is that it is very important how they go about getting what they want from the person they want it from. The person here is your mate. Allow me to share with you a very effective and easy technique that my wife and I practice with each other from time to time. I like to call it the 'Communicate & Praise' technique.… Continue

This is really just a reminder that spontaneity is crucial in a relationship. If you don't act when you want to act regarding intimacy, quickly, often it results into a "comfort level" and then those “Wants” become “I Wanted TOs” with your mate. Even in the most conservative relationships, creativity and spontaneity (at some level) is necessary. So what's wrong with a little surprise now and then?! Put on that something sexy and play some Luther Vandross, Marvin Gay or Keith Sweat... just set th… Continue

So often in our lives we hear 'It's the little things that matter'. It's true. The 'little good' things you do in your relationships can make a world of difference in how you make each other feel mentally & spiritually. Those little differences can carry the spirit a long way throughout the course of a day. Yes, something as simple and sweet as a good morning kiss to your significant other can be the difference in how both of you feel all day long. Often we all are caught up in the daily gr… Continue

Its summertime and that means its time for summer love! If you don't have one, ya better find one! And if you got one...HOLD ON to 'em! It's HOT and STEAMY this time of the year. It's time for a lot of the bathing suits and Speedos to come out of the closet and show the world those sculpted bodies that you've been working on all winter long. Or if you're like me and you basically hibernate from September til April then you may want to just hold on to your loved one and let her or him squeeze ya… Continue